Last week I distinguished the notion “existence systems” and their importance to people who are Up To Something. Then I speculated on what are the underlying, defining characteristics that make them great. Now I want to explore their role in coaching relationships, and I’ll do so looking from where we [at CoachAccountable] aim to contribute to the coaching profession.
Everyone has his or her own relationship to existence systems. For example, one can overall be empowered by them, resistant to them, or indifferent/oblivious to needing such things (I’m proud to say I’ve graduated from that third category). Most coaches will find, among their clients, that there are relationships to existence systems that are all across the board. A coach working with a client who is already a master of utilizing an existence system has a big leg up in the process. During my year as a coach, it felt sometimes like one of my responsibilities was to BE the existence system for my coachees (“How did you do with those four actions you created last week?” Pause. “Umm… can you tell me what were they again?”).